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A Meaning Full Rain

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(Note: While I’m on vacation, TLC will feature guest posts.)

Landon Saunders

My good friend, Dr. James Walters, and I often surface sayings we remember hearing in our childhood that we enjoy. The other day James mentioned that he had heard his grandfather speak of needing a “meaningful rain.” He asked his grandfather, “What do you mean—a meaningful rain?” His grandfather replied, “It’s when the rain meets the moisture.”

The reference, of course, suggests that the rain is slow and soaking (hence, “meaningful”) and finally meets the moisture that is under the dry, dusty, even parched, soil above.

A “meaningful rain” gets to the depths. In the current virus crisis, our sense of self can feel dry, dusty, and parched due to being isolated from friends and normal activities that help nourish our spirits. It can take a toll on our sense of well-being. We need a “meaningful rain”.

Here are four words that connect us with the well-springs of our lives. These words have been celebrated by artists, poets, and prophets for centuries. They are spirit, love, light, life. These are four ideas that bring out the best in us.

Your spirit helps shake off dead routines and opens you to imagination, wonder, and change; your love is that inexhaustible resource that expresses your best humanity; your light from within enables you to find, with wisdom, your way in all circumstances; and your life reveals your deepest yearning for what is good and true and just.

Okay, I admit this might be viewed as a bit too aspirational. I thought about just tossing these thoughts aside and writing something more practical. But then I thought, no, these thoughts have meant so much to me and the way I live my own life that I decided they might mean something to you as well.

Today we are awash with information that purports to tell us who we are and what we should do. But what we most need are ideas that mine the riches within our own persons, ideas that keep us in touch with our own interesting and unique self.

How do we make these thoughts practical? These are thoughts that need time, like a slow soaking meaningful rain, time for them to connect to a richness within us. So, you might place the four words on a slip of paper and post them where you’ll see them every day. If you do no more than call them to mind each day, they will begin to sink in deeper and deeper.

Or, you could use them for a moment of meditation in which you think about each idea in a way that helps you absorb their power and integrate them with the way you think about your self—your incredible humanity.

You are spirit. You are love. You are light. You are life. Think of these words as a seeding of your being that, who knows, might just result in a meaning full rain.

 

“When my hat’s here, I’m here!”

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by Landon Saunders

In response to last week’s email on “Feet,” Dr. Paul Sampley, my good friend, responded with a similar story. He said there was a professor who used to go into the classroom early and leave his hat on his desk and then go for coffee. One day he was delayed and, by the time he got back to his classroom, only a few students were still there. He declared: “When my hat’s here, I’m here!” At the next meeting of the class, the professor arrived to find a hat on every desk—and no students!

“When my hat’s here, I’m here!”  This hat story reminds me of another.

I had to meet with a man who, I’d been told, had some real problems with me! It boded something a bit ominous. I had expected to meet him later in the day, but I rounded a corner in a hallway and bumped right into him. I said, “Oh, excuse me. This isn’t how I planned to meet you. My plan was to find the room you were in, toss my hat in to see if it stayed, and, if it did, then I would come in.” He paused a moment then roared with laughter. I knew right away that it had smoothed the path.

Right now, when so many of us are all cooped up together, nerves can fray, encounters can be tense. If anticipating tension in the room you’re about to enter, why not do something unexpected—maybe like throwing your hat into the room! Could lighten things up a bit!

In Texas they have a saying, “He’s all hat, and no cattle.” Today I’m more than willing to be “all hat” in pursuit of your smile.

 

 

Just The Feet

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Landon Saunders

A student goes in to take the final exam in a course entitled Ornithology, the study of birds. He has spent days poring over his notes and reading the assigned materials. He feels ready for anything.

The exam is passed out, and he takes a look at it. The entire exam consists of drawings of the feet of various birds. By looking at only the feet, he is supposed to name the bird the feet belong to.

He looks at the exam for about sixty seconds and realizes he can identify none of the birds, and he is too disgusted to guess. He folds the paper, not even bothering to put his name on it, and hands it to the professor.

Before he can get out the door, the professor calls to him, “What’s your name?” The college student turns around, pulls up his pant leg, dangles his foot in the air for the professor to see and shouts, “You tell me!”

We’ve probably all had the experience of thinking we understand something or someone only to realize later we were looking at a small piece of the picture. The full picture of a human life is enormous. Who could ever see and understand it all? But the quest to understand…that is a beautiful part of what it is to be human.

The trick is to seek that understanding with a full measure of the humility that we may not be seeing the whole picture.

In this time of so much polarization and divisiveness, let’s seek the humility that would help us see the “other” with greater kindness and understanding. It might be healing.

 

In Pieces Or A Masterpiece?

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Guest Post from Landon Saunders

“Our great and glorious masterpiece is to live properly,” wrote the essayist Montaigne who himself had faced a great plague.

To think of our life as a great and glorious masterpiece—that’s not a bad place to begin. To think of what would make our life a great and glorious masterpiece—that would be even better.

In many ways this present crisis has shined a light on our sense of self and our mortality in rare and unusual ways. I know it has for me.

We’re pushed away from crowds, away from concerts and churches, away from the social enjoyment of bars and restaurants, away from colleagues at work, and away from schools—away from all the places that surround us with people. Nor is it as easy to jump in the car and head to the beach or the lake to get away from it all.

Now, we are facing our sense of self and our sense of mortality like never before. We are facing what it means to “live properly” with fewer people around to support us.

And millions are doing it pretty well. They’re tapping into the inner wellsprings of courage, patience, creativity, and endurance. We’re all faced with the question: will we draw on the resources of our heart to add shape and beauty to our great and glorious masterpiece…or will we be diminished?

This crisis will surely end. And most of our lives will go on. Let’s do our best to strengthen our resolve, add myriad colors to who we are, smooth some rough edges, and emerge greater and stronger. In this way you will have benefited, and everyone around you—your children and family and friends—will marvel at your masterpiece.

Yes, even in this difficult time, let’s strive to “live properly.” Let’s not just “get through it,” let’s emerge from it all a better person.

“The nice part and the ugly part stopped hating each other”

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One of the most powerful novels I’ve read in a while is Marcelo In The Real World by Francisco X. Stork. So I’m going to do something a little different with this post. I want to share a lengthy excerpt from this novel with little comment.

First, let me set up the excerpt. Marcelo, age 17, suffers from Asperger’s Syndrome and attends a special school for young people on the autistic scale. His father owns a law firm and wants Marcelo to work there for the summer to “experience the real world.” This causes Marcelo much anxiety but he has no choice. While going through some files at the firm, Marcelo finds a picture of a teenage girl named Ixtel; half of her face is pretty, the other half is disfigured. Ixtel was in a car accident that took the lives of both of her parents. Her face was disfigured by a malfunctioning windshield. Marcelo discovers that his father’s firm used legal maneuvers to avoid paying for the surgery that could have restored Ixtel’s face. At great cost to himself, Marcelo gets his father to finally agree to cover the surgery.

In the scene I’ll share, Marcelo is meeting Ixtel for the first time at the Catholic home for girls where she lives. They talk for some time and Marcelo is struck with how at ease with herself Ixtel is. He asks her about this and Ixtel says that after the accident, she went wild for a while, taking drugs and selling her body. That’s when Marcelo asks:

“But how did you change? What happened? What made you different?”

We both turn to look at each other. I can feel her wondering why I want to know. Maybe she can see that I am not asking just out of curiosity or to make small talk. I’m asking because I want to find what she found.

“Little by little, I don’t know, what was eating me up went away.”

“But how did it go away? What did you do?”

“Like, at the beginning, I felt sorry for myself, I guess. Not like, you know, pity or anything. But then one day I stopped being so angry. ‘You’re just a little girl,’ I said to myself. ‘It’s not your fault your parents died. It’s okay you messed up. It’s okay to be angry about your face and hate everyone. You’re just a little girl. I forgive you, little girl, for all the bad things you did.’ Like that. It’s crazy, isn’t it? To have one part of yourself be nice to another part. Like, the nice part of my face saying nice things to the ugly part. After a while, the nice part and the ugly part stopped hating each other. There was peace inside of me, like the different parts disappeared and there was only one me. After that, I saw how the other girls were like me, and I started doing the same thing with them. I saw their ugly parts—and around here that’s not too hard, believe me—and I tried to be nice to their ugly parts.”

“We all have ugly parts,” I say to myself, forgetting for a moment that Ixtel is sitting next to me.

She gives a short laugh that sounds like a cough because of the shape of her mouth. “You say that as if you never knew it.”

“I never knew it like I do now.”

There’s a lot of wisdom here, but I will just make one comment.

We’ve all heard that we should love our neighbor as ourselves. Maybe Ixtel shows us that when we do the work of learning to love ourselves—including our ugly parts—we might find it easier to love our neighbor.

 

Recognizing Beauty

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(Note: Issues we face today—issues of race and the value of an ordinary human life in the face of a pandemic—are, at their root, about how we see beauty in another person. So these reflections from Landon Saunders are especially relevant now. GM)

 Landon Saunders

My friend, Dr. Richard Beck, poses the question, “Do you want to have a beautiful life?” An inability to see beauty in a human life costs us something precious to a good life, a flourishing life.

In 1962 I met a deeply troubled boy, thirteen, who had already been in a number of juvenile lockups. When something went wrong in the community, James Garner was the first suspected and accused. I will not describe here what he looked like the day I met him. I will only say I had never met anyone like what I saw…and visited with. His was a “throw-away” life in the eyes of most. This lad soon came to live in my home during his teen years.

And, slowly, something buried from sight began to appear—traces of something beautiful. He would never have known how to say it and would never have thought to use the word “beautiful,” yet, in spite of all his failures, he wanted a beautiful life.

Traces of something beautiful began to appear in an infectious laugh; in some drawings and small sculptures he created; in his instant forgiveness for any slight, any wrong, however unjust that was inflicted on him; the absence of grudges, resentments, blame, or feeling sorry for himself; no expectations for anything given to him but everything received with a bit of twinkle in his eye.

Without my knowing it at the time (the years were often trying, difficult), I was witness to something I have come to recognize as beauty in a life to which no one would have assigned the word.

Slowly, through the years and to this day, a sense of life that is wrapped up in the question Richard Beck raises and that I witnessed in the life of James Garner, has informed what I look for and treasure in the lives of those I meet—something called beauty.

Last fall, I received a call telling me James had died. At his wake and memorial, I listened to the stories told by his wife, his son and his daughter, the people he had known through the years— stories told with quaking voices and tear-filled eyes of how James had affected their lives. It was a time of beauty.

At the beginning I was to have been his teacher. What I didn’t know then was that he would be my teacher, one of the most powerful of my entire life. And so, I said “Farewell” with heart running over with emotions for which I have no words.

“Do you want a beautiful life?” Do we recognize beauty in a life?