I love the story Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen tells about an insight that changed her life.
She was attending a talk by Carl Rogers, the master psychologist who developed the therapeutic approach known as Unconditional Positive Regard. Rogers said:
“There is something I do before I start a session. I let myself know that I am enough. Not perfect. Perfect wouldn’t be enough. But that I am human, and that is enough. There is nothing this man can say or do or feel that I can’t feel in myself. I can be with him. I am enough.”
Dr. Remen commented:
“I was stunned by this. It felt as if some old wound in me, some fear of not being good enough, had come to an end. I knew inside myself that what he said was absolutely true. I am not perfect, but I am enough. Knowing that…allows healing to happen.”
Can you imagine moving through the world relaxed, confident, and feeling “I am enough”? Can you sense the possibilities of that?
We can, of course, go through life feeling not good enough, not smart enough, not good looking enough, not lucky enough, not educated enough, or not [whatever] enough.
But in my experience, that can be tense and draining.
Or we can follow Carl Rogers’s example of reminding ourselves: “I am enough.” We can even play with this idea:
“I am enough to fill the unique place in the world that only I can fill.”
“I am enough for the people I love and care about.”
“I am enough in spite of failures, disappointments and setbacks. (These do not disqualify us–unless we let them; they qualify us as being human.)”
“I am enough to overcome any hurt.”
“I am enough today, but I am also enough to grow and change.”
“I am enough” is not about ego inflation. I think it’s an invitation to wholeness.
It’s a marvelous insight that keeps encouraging us to bring our whole, genuine selves to everything we do and to the people we care about. And to know that’s enough.