In one of his routines, comedian Chris Rock joked about how Dads are often under-appreciated:
“Does anyone ever say, ‘Gee Dad, thanks for taking care of this rent’? No, all Daddy ever gets is the big piece of chicken!”
Actually, it’s a safe bet that most people feel under-appreciated from time to time. Ask any group of employees: do you feel that your boss really appreciates you? I think we know what most would say.
Observing this “appreciation deficit” in human life, Mark Twain commented:
“When you cannot get a compliment any other way, pay yourself one.”
I actually think this is a healthy practice—perhaps at the start of the day, when you’re looking in the mirror (the most challenging time to compliment yourself!).
This morning, I looked in the mirror and said, “Geoffery, I don’t think there’s anyone in the world with a nose exactly like yours. Congratulations!”
Silly? Perhaps, but I tell you, it beats starting the day feeling down on myself.
And consider this: when someone asked Mozart what it was that gave his music that unique, Mozartish quality, he said, “It’s probably the same thing that gives my nose its unique shape.”
So here’s a suggestion: this week, compliment yourself on being a unique person, unlike any that has ever lived before. Then compliment yourself on something specific you’ve done this week—maybe something others didn’t notice.
Then take it a step further. Find someone whom you suspect has not been shown appreciation for something they’ve done—and let them know you noticed.
It may not sound like much. But it’s something we can do to help reduce the “appreciation deficit.”
After all, showing appreciation is one investment that never depreciates.