by Geoffery Moore | Oct 30, 2020 | Blog |
Guest post by Landon Saunders
The great Japanese poet, Basho, wrote:
“Beneath the cherry blossoms, there are no strangers.”
Beneath such beauty, differences are minimized, and comity flourishes.
In art museums, before works of the masters, we stand quietly, not noisily.
I think of our nation as a great experiment in freedom that has caught the eye of millions throughout the world because of something attractive, even beautiful. Something that aroused hope and promise.
This “hope and promise” was not always realized. There have been (and still are) ugly moments both at home and abroad. But, overall, this nation has been a beacon of freedom—a place where people of differences, drawn from many backgrounds, forged a sense of community. We’re still learning, still struggling with our errors, still committed to being better.
I keep that vision before me now as we struggle with a pandemic and face new elections. I read and hear a lot of invective, angry words, and sometimes slander. People with whom some differ are demonized. Humanity is devalued by name-calling. Negative emotions find a home in the human heart that make one less attractive. We often believe the worst about those with whom we have political differences.
Maybe we should pause for a few moments and sit together “beneath the cherry blossoms.” Gaze at something beautiful. Ponder our values, our character. Reflect on the power of loving our neighbor as we love ourselves and imagine the good that flows from that across our families and our nation. It’s not easy, but, if we are to have a future, that future depends on it.
“Beneath the cherry blossoms, there are no strangers.”
by Geoffery Moore | Oct 26, 2020 | Blog |
Our thought this week comes from Rabia of Basra (c 717-801 C.E.), the most popular and influential of female Islamic mystics.
As a girl in what is now Iraq, Rabia became separated from her parents (they may have died) and wandered homelessly until she was captured and sold to a famous brothel where she lived and worked for many years.
From an early age, Rabia was both physically and sexually abused, yet she sustained her sense of self through prayer, meditation and writing poetry. When she was about fifty, she gained her freedom and became a spiritual guide to many.
Here is one of her simpler, shorter poems.
Live with dignity, women, live with dignity, men.
Few things will enhance
Two things strike me. First, isn’t it astonishing that these words should come from a woman who had been through the things Rabia had been through?
Second, I like that connection between dignity and beauty. For one thing, it suggests that anyone can be beautiful!
But what does it mean to “live with dignity”?
According to the dictionary, “dignity” is “the quality of being worthy of esteem or honor, worthiness…proper pride and self-respect.”
Dignity is about the question: What is your true net worth? It’s not asking about your bank account, but about your basic, inherent worth as a human being.
I think it is undeniable that a human being is the most valuable thing in the world. There is simply nothing else that has quite the imagination, the thoughtfulness, the playfulness, the capacity for courage and compassion and delight and goodness and aliveness, the depth…that an ordinary human being has.
This is not about puffery or ego inflation. It’s about something deeper. Listen, you and I are valuable, unique human beings and that is an amazing, terrifically wonderful thing—no matter what has happened to us!
As the artist Salvador Dali said, “I don’t take drugs; I am drugs!” He also said that when he was five years old, he wanted to be Pope, and then his ambitions went up!
To “live with dignity” is to seek to live out of that heightened awareness of our worth and the worth of others. It is to remember that I am worthy—and to bring that sense of worthiness to the things we say and do and the way we are each day.
But this is challenging, because there are so many things that happen in life that erode our sense of worth, our “proper pride and self-respect.”
So we may need to frequently remind ourselves: You’re worth more than all that has happened to you. You’re worth more than your successes and your failures. You’re worth more than your salary or education might indicate. You’re worth more than your wounds or your gifts. And you’re even worth more than you look like you are!
Maybe we need to put a sticker on our bathroom mirror that says: Objects in mirror are worth a lot more than they appear!
To “live with dignity”, to affirm our worth and the worth of each person—especially in these difficult times—that’s a beauty enhancement program we can all benefit from. And it’s free!
by Geoffery Moore | Oct 19, 2020 | Blog |
This week’s thought comes from Mark Twain:
“’On with the dance, let joy be unconfined’ is my motto, whether there’s any dance to dance or any joy to unconfine.”
To read Twain’s life is to see that he lived life as a dance with joy—even in small, everyday things.
Twain had a rough background and was known for his use of profanity, but his wife Olivia was from a very refined background. One day, Twain overheard Olivia in another room cussing about something—which was unlike her. In a letter to a friend, he wrote: “Olivia is trying to learn how to cuss. She’s got the words but not the music!”
Twain understood that two of joy’s greatest tools are a sense of humor and stories. He literally traveled around the world sharing stories and bringing joy to millions.
But note the second half of his quotation: “…whether there’s any dance to dance or any joy to unconfine.”
Twain also experienced great problems and tragedy including the costly failure of a business venture and the loss of his wife, the great love of his life. “Dancing with joy” didn’t mean there would be no problems, of course, but it did help sustain him.
In these difficult times, Twain reminds us that now, more than ever, we need to dance with joy, we need our sense of humor, and we need to tell the stories.
Tell the stories of the little things. Tell the stories around the dinner table. Tell the stories with friends. Tell the stories that bring laughter and refresh the spirit.
The more we get tired of dealing with the coronavirus, the more important it is to keep dancing with joy.
“On with the dance!”
by Geoffery Moore | Oct 16, 2020 | Blog |
Guest post by Landon Saunders
Today, I want to name three things that are vital to living a good life—under normal times and abnormal such as we’re experiencing now
One, do the right thing. Every day. To every person. While that makes good sense, think of all the times we forget. And we will forget. We will do the wrong thing. But a good, growing life has a central goal—to do the right thing. And when we don’t, we correct it without too much delay. Growth and health require casting off the things we do wrong and affirming the things we do right. That’s nearly as exciting as being shocked back to life!
Two, make peace. Tension, conflict, disagreement, angry words—these are all part of life, but they require peace-making. The work of making peace maintains humanity in the moments of inhumanity. Moments arise in relationships, in marriages, in families, and in the workplace when making peace—when being a peacemaker—can make all the difference in the world. Peace is powerful, restorative…and wonderfully human. The good life affirms peace as a goal.
Three, generate joy and pass it on. The experiences of a day, of a life, drain us, but joy never drains you. Joy adds life, energy, even power when you’re weary and spent. Joy always whispers, “I’m here.” In all circumstances—even in the times you can’t express joy—joy remains and is always ready at the drop of a hat. Joy never gets its feelings hurt, never complains when neglected, never hits back when abused, and never givesup on a human life. The good life never loses sight of joy as a goal.
Try to do right, pursue peace, practice joy—these are three things I’m certain of for living a good life.
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by Geoffery Moore | Oct 12, 2020 | Blog |
The other day, the marketing guru Seth Godin wrote something in his blog that stopped me:
“Attitudes are skills.”
Think about that. If attitudes are skills, then they can be learned, practiced, improved on. I suppose one could even aspire to become an “attitude craftsmen”—a person who cultivates excellent attitudes toward self, success, failure, other people (including ornery ones), difficulties, onerous circumstances and life in general.
They say you can’t do much to improve your IQ. But what about your AQ, your Attitude Quotient? Isn’t that eminently improvable?
And when you think about it, your Attitude Quotient probably has a more profound impact on your life, career, relationships and basic happiness than your IQ!
Suppose I wanted to develop a higher AQ, where would I start? Let’s ask some poets.
German poet Rainer Rilke talks about our attitude toward circumstances (a good thing to think about in this time of Covid):
“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches.”
Translation: changing your attitude to a bad situation just might help you discover the treasure buried right under your feet.
Robert Frost makes a similar point:
“Always fall in with what you’re asked to accept…My aim in life has always been to hold my own with whatever’s going. Not against: with.”
Translation: work with what you’ve got, what you’re facing, what you’re dealing with. There’s no future in complaining, resenting or fighting against it.
The ability to stand back and shift our attitude is a kind of poetry that can enhance the rhyme and reason of our daily experience.
So even if you can’t write a poem, cultivating your AQ makes you a poet of everyday life.
by Geoffery Moore | Oct 5, 2020 | Blog |
Some say the glass is half empty. Some say the glass is half full.
But honestly, neither approach seems sufficient for right now. Maybe we need a different approach: the glass is overflowing. A commitment to live in the overflow.
The Bible describes living in the overflow in two simple lines:
Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.
Give and it will be given to you, good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over will be poured into your lap.
I think we all understand that living generously creates a kind of karma—whether it’s being generous with money, time, energy, patience, forgiveness or personal attention. The more we give of ourselves, the more we get back.
Picking up on that thought, John Wesley described living in the overflow like this:
Do all the good you can
By all the means you can,
In all the ways you can,
At all the times you can,
As long as ever you can.
And singer James Taylor reminds us that “doing good” begins at home:
Shower the people you love with love, show them the way that you feel,
You know that things are going to work out better if you only will.
Living in troubled times can sometimes make us feel that we’re running on empty.
But the resources we most need—compassion, joy, courage, wisdom and aliveness—are bottomless, inexhaustible, always there to be tapped into and drunk deep from.
When we can’t do anything else, we can choose to live in the overflow. In fact, that might be one thing we can do that finally matters. We can adopt the motto of the overflowing life:
“The more trouble life brings, the more life I bring to the trouble.”
by Geoffery Moore | Oct 3, 2020 | Blog |
Guest post by Landon Saunders
I’ve always loved the old Quaker story of the man who said to another with whom he was very displeased: “Friend, I love thee, but thou art standing where I’m about to strike!”
The story suggests the great difficulty of loving our neighbors. The words, “love your neighbor as yourself,” glide easily off the tongue. But, in reality, it is one of the most difficult things for us do throughout our lives.
So maybe think of it like this: the one thing in which we each should try to excel is the right treatment of another human being. This would be a good daily goal.
The people we encounter in our daily lives may be different in myriads of ways. They may disappoint us. They may offend us. They may violate our sense of values, morals, and beliefs.
But hurting them, demeaning them, excluding them, choosing words that diminish them, using words that suggest another person is just a little less human than the rest of us—this is unbecoming.
Not valuing others lowers our own value. This is an insidious poison that creeps into our hearts, corrupting our view of both self and neighbor. Such poison breeds fear, distrust, division, and hostilities.
I mourn the present state of things in our nation. Language is coarse, often nasty and mean. Ugly name calling and misrepresentation of views threatens decency and reason and healthy debate.
To any extent we find ourselves a part of such behavior, maybe a good place to begin to change things for the better would be to say in our hearts:
This is wrong. I will not be a part of it. I will represent something different to every person I meet—I will treat every person as a neighbor. Beginning today.
Make no mistake about it: living together in peace is a goal we must never give up on if we are to survive—personally, and as a nation.
The story above of the Quaker brings a smile. Not a bad place to end these thoughts.