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Landon Saunders

            Whatever happened to friendship? As a character in one of Camus’ novels said, “I have no friends, only accomplices.”

            Do you have a real friend? Beyond someone you just work with or do things with?

            Isn’t it time to make a fresh commitment to keeping our friendships in good repair?

Today I’ll be a friend—no conditions—no reservations—no expectations—I will simply be a friend. And nothing my friend does can change that. He doesn’t have to follow my script to be my friend. Friendship does not grow out of the demands or expectations I place on others; it grows out of what I am.

“I’ll Never Leave You”

            Speaking of friendship, what about your marriage? Someone has said that the need for devotion is even more profound than the need for companionship.

            Have you asked yourself: “Just how devoted am I, really, to my marriage?” A marriage needs devotion. Without it, the companionship will begin to break down—along with the marriage. Marriage means a man and a woman looking deeply into each other’s eyes and saying:

I will never leave you. Others may come and go in your life, but I never will. If you wrinkle, I will love you. If you fail, I will stay with you. If you get sick, I’ll feed you, bathe you, sit up with you—anything—except leave you. I will never leave you.

            Today, remake this commitment. If you will devote yourself to another human being, and cherish them, you will find that you like being with them more; that things go better.

            The key to this is to start today from your side. Devote yourself, without expectation on how your partner will respond. Your devotion will create the time you need to renew your marriage, and you have enough time. Don’t give up on your marriage. You may change, your partner may change, or the horse may learn to fly.

            It’s so important to have patience here.

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[This is an excerpt from, How To Win 7 Out Of 8 Days A Week by Landon Saunders, which is out of print but is used by permission. In 2024 we will work through the entire book, with posts on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.]